Sadly, divorce is very common. In fact, only in the United States, between 40% and 50% of first marriages ends up in divorce. 60% of second marriages ends up in the divorce as well. If you don’t have children, it is much easier. Adults can handle this stress much better than children. One of the common mistakes is that parents believe children are protected and they don’t know what is happening. Actually, children under the age 3-4 may realize what is happening! Because this is very stressful for them you will find a way to protect them!
The main goal is to talk with another parent and make sure both of you will do anything that you can to protect your child and make him feel comfortable. Don’t give promises you cannot keep and don’t ever fight with your ex in front of a child! It may be hard, but spending time together with your ex-spouse and child is important. Tell him that you love him very much and you want to make him happy. If a child starts crying or gets angry, let him vent. Never talk about his other parent some nasty things!
Don’t ask him to choose with whom to live. Buy him toys together, and specifically say to him that it is a gift from both parents. If you have problems keeping this under control, counseling may be necessary. If you don’t do these things, your child has higher chances to use alcohol, drugs and he will have problems at school later in life! I know, because my parent divorced when I was 3 years old, and they didn’t do anything of these things!